Dealing with rejection in dating who is eric benet dating
We flirted and he fairly quickly asked if I was free for lunch the following Saturday. If there was a Masters in Online Dating, Bonnie’s earned it.
(Yes, the same day as dude #1.)I responded that lunch sounded great, stating that I was free for lunch from on. I knew that he was quite busy (he traveled a lot for work and had a young-ish son), so I decided to ignore my therapist’s/friends’ advice. But he was friendly enough and wanted to lock into a date with me. This means: (1) That Bonnie is a failure at dating AND (2) She’s accumulated a lot of experiences and knowledge about the dating landscape for middle-aged chicks in Austin.
Non Date #2: Not as conventionally attractive as dude #1. And I have to find a way to get reasonably comfortable with that reality. She has been online dating on-and-off for over 4 years.
He was not tall, had a receding hairline, and an average build, but he was a snazzy dresser and had an entertaining (if brief) profile. So I tell people I have dates “in theory.” I never count my chickens (or roosters, so to speak) until they are hatched! She has gone out on at least 100 first dates, interacted with over 1000 guys, and reviewed at least 10000 profiles.
Or rather, at some point or other, we established a certain response as our go-to, and we never bothered to alter that response moving forward. Let me give you two scenarios, and let's see if you can tell which one warrants a response of feeling rejected.
Whether they're trying to find a significant other or close a business deal, they manage to pick themselves up and continue on their merry way. Not that we aren't capable of it, but we choose not to be. It's how you react to rejection that makes all the difference.
He also shared that he was wiped out from the move and relieved to postpone meeting me until he wasn’t so tired.
We casually batted around seeing each other when his schedule settled down.
I happily complied and we locked into a new day, this Friday. He cancelled totally, sharing that he is now in an exclusive relationship with someone else. When I tell someone that I have a date planned in theory, he will often tell me that I’m being negative. He added that he would be moving earlier that day, but hoped he would free up that evening.